One of the most difficult parts of moving on after a divorce is to figure out who you are without the other person. This feeling of uncertainty is natural because no matter the length of time of your marriage, a piece of your life and personality was conditioned to be a certain way with that person.

Divorce has its challenges and keeping your confidence intact during this process is certainly one of them. You are learning to be single again and adapting to life without your partner can shatter your self-esteem. For this and other reasons, even if you are the person initiating the divorce and leaving the other person, your confidence could be affected. 

Divorce makes us question and wonder who we are and who we are going to be. We have to take a good hard look at our lives, ourselves and what positions we play in life. This can be especially true if you were a spouse whose identity was deeply rooted in your marriage.   Some people are dependent on this identity and pride themselves on being a spouse.

Divorce can also shatter confidence because of the manner in which the divorce is being carried out. Depending on the circumstances, it may not be so easy to let go. If the divorce wasn’t a mutual or amicable decision, this could lead to one person holding on more than the other and subsequently feeling low in confidence.

While you will grieve the loss of the future that you thought you would have, stay encouraged that things will eventually get better. It is important to remind yourself that you still have a life and a future outside of divorce. It doesn’t have to become your identity and drain you of your confidence. Be reassured by the fact that fresh hopes and dreams will eventually replace your old ones and you get to decide what they are.

Caring about yourself, your health, and your mental well-being is a major step towards finding your confidence again. At the end of the day, give yourself some time to focus on you.  With the right tools in place and the right support system, you will pull through this with your self-esteem and confidence intact. Don’t think it’s too hard to get through; you can make it if you allow yourself the space to do so.

Are you contemplating a divorce? Or are you in the midst of a divorce and find yourself struggling? I’ll walk you through the divorce process, step by step and help you with the overwhelming, but necessary decisions you’ll have to make.  Contact me today via telephone and/or email at to schedule a confidential complimentary consultation.