Arguments are bound to occur during a divorce, but even during the most heated discussions, it’s worth trying to keep your cool as much as possible. While you may want to start screaming and shouting about everything that’s going on, it’s not going to achieve anything. By following these tips listed below, you can remain cool and confident during even the most challenging encounters.
Understand Both of Your Communication Styles
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, you probably have a very good idea about their communication style. On top of that, you likely know which things they do or say will trigger you to react. Try to keep these in mind, and don’t let any of their poor argument tactics impact you. Ensure you stand up for yourself and don’t let anyone else talk to you in a harsh manner.
Think Before You Speak
In the heat of the moment, it can be so easy to start shouting and making cruel statements. Take a deep breath and think before you say anything. Even if you want to swear or say nasty things to your ex-partner, keep your composure and only say what needs to be said at the time to resolve the issue.
Don’t Bring Up Other Issues
When discussing one topic, such as looking after your kids, don’t start talking about another subject. While you may be distraught about infidelity or another action of your partner’s, this isn’t going to resolve the discussion you are in the middle of. Focus on the conversation at hand and try to sort out one issue at a time during this challenging time.
Take a Break
Some discussions during a divorce are unavoidable, such as having a conversation about selling your house or looking after the children. If things start to become too heated, it’s time to take a step back and return to the conversation another day. When you know things have already got out of hand, walk away from the discussion and return to it when you are in a better frame of mind, and you’ve both had time to think about everything.
Communicate Directly
We often have the temptation to rely on sarcasm or being passive-aggressive during an argument, but that’s going to achieve absolutely nothing. Stick to direct and honest communication, as opposed to skirting around the subject to avoid a difficult topic. This will help you to remain cool and clearly communicate your thoughts. Also, ensure you have important discussions face to face, as opposed to ending up holding a shouting match on the telephone.
During a divorce, it can be so easy to let someone else walk all over you. Don’t let anyone’s words knock your confidence further, and instead, try to remain cool and composed at all times. If you are in the middle of a divorce and are struggling with overwhelming arguments, ensure you receive the support you need to guide you through this difficult time. Contact me today at Lspiers19@yahoo.com or via the phone to schedule a confidential complimentary consultation today.
